A Rough Mommy Day

Today was not the first rough mommy day, but today reminded me of a lot of commoner situations so I thought I’d share mine.

I have two kids, ages 7 and 2! Fun ages.. haha. Not. But kids grow to fast and I enjoy each day and each tantrum. They are both sick! This is something I can handle, people get sick and I consider myself a pretty good care taker. We had to go to the store (Walmart to be even more specific) to get soup and some children’s medicine, as we were waiting in the long line to check out ( and you know Walmart only has two cashiers no matter what time of day 😑) my son gets this strange, scared look on his face.. I knew that watery look. He was gone throw up and sure enough he did…. right into my hands. As I went to find paper towel and a trash can to throw away all the yuckiness piled into my palms he throws up again and this time more and its every where and now everybody and there Mother’s are staring at us.

This is where the part turns from a rough mommy day, to a day we’re my faith is restored in humanity. As I clean up the throw up from myself, my son, and the floor, a CROWD of mothers come to show support. One bought my son a ginger ale to settle his stomach, another bought my daughter some candy to distract her from the madness. And another told me how I will get through this day. I started out extremely embarrassed by a situation in which I felt I had no control over and all eyes were on me, too feeling extremely great full and un-alone!

Today was a rough mommy day, today was also a day I will get through. I love all my helpful mothers. It’s takes a village. Thank you to my village at the grocery store today

– Enjoy a pic of my beautiful family, not sick 😷

BoxyCharm September Box

I got my September box in 5 days ago but never had time to actually use any of it until today! Rough rough week and this was the perfect down time pick-me-up. Makeup is a beautiful peaceful escape for me that lets me explore different sides of ME.

Anyway onto the Box! I’m happy to say that I’m still in love with BoxyCharm and the value of the products I get. I’m pretty sure I will never have to re-use eyeshadow brushes if I keep receiving them in my boxes every month!! Not a bad thing in my opinion.

1st product: Violet Voss – Essentials Eyeshadow Pallet, the colors are beautiful but you will definitely have to use primer before applying. MSRP: $29.00

Moda – 5 Pc Brush Kit: angled perfectly, the tips are soft and they are skinny! I have had really thick brushes and they don’t get the job done as well. MSRP: $27.95

Hank & Henry – Blickity Black Eye Liner: the felt tip feels like velvet and stays a deep black throughout the day with out fading, it’s honestly better than the Stila liquid eyeliner I bought and would be half the price! MSRP: $20.00

Dr Brandt – Hydro Biotic Sleeping Mask: this creamy mask was perfect for my skin, I have problems with irritation and redness and when I woke up my skin was soft, smelled great, a free of irritation. This is definitely worth it’s price and hands down the best things in the September Box. MSRP: $52.00

Last but not least, Billon Dollar Brow – The MicroBlade Effect: Brow Pen – I am not the best with eyebrows at ALL but this was beyond easy to use. I am in AWE at how fitting this pen was for my eyebrows and actually looked like hairs. MSRP: $18.00

If all of this sounds amazing to you (which it should) head over to BoxyCharm.com and start a subscription, don’t forget to us my code Nicole-ZMJATEVB

BoxyCharm Look #1

So I want to make this SUPER clear upfront, I am not a MUA! A make up enthusiast? Yes, Amateur? Yes lol I recently wrote about my first experience using BoxyCharm and why, if you haven’t read it please do!

I never got around to showing off the makeup itself on me. Before applying my foundation I used the Illuminating Face Oil by Wander Beauty. Did you know it’s shimmery pink? Kinda crazy, kinda cool, I really enjoyed plus it had a beautiful scent. Setting my face with the Hydra-Mist Set & Refresh Powder was lovely, I didn’t feel cakey because it was very light weight AND it didn’t get all over my bathroom floor which happens to me a lot with other products.

I decided to use the Natural Goddess eyes shadow pallet by Butter London, all of the colors were to die for and the shade Femme Fatale (like a turquoise) kept calling my name. All of the shades are nicely pigmented but for me there was a lot of fall out. Still had no problems using the pallet

I used my very hot pink eyeshadow from Ace Beaute in the corners of my eyes. Truthfully I thought it was going to be a little lighter but still worked for me. I can definitely see myself doing my entire eye lid this color 🔮 I accentuated them with the Tarte – Big Ego Mascara.

I am extremely happy with the August BoxyCharm Box, can’t wait to keep using, exploring, and growing with this make-up. Check out more of my looks @ReadWriteThruMe and @NikkiNikkiNikki___ on Instagram 🥰💋💞

Oh! And by the way, MY NEXT BOX IS ALMOST HERE!

BoxyCharm BoxyLuxe

I’ve always been into make up and I’m a bit of a snob when it comes to it lol. I LOVE high end make-up, it’s what I splurge on but it’s definitely become a bit much. I started looking into other way’s to get the make-up quality I love with a better price for my budget, cause honey… I’m a single mommy of two who can’t keep spending money on her face!

I looked into IPSY and FabFitFun, but in the end I choose to subscribe to BoxyCharm. When looking through the months previous boxes (a tool that I love) I got to see the different brands and the actually products they put into each box. It’s was better than either of the other two PLUS, it guarantees I get full size products! That was definitely a winner for me

What through me off during the process was the shipping, I thought I would have to wait a minimum of 15 days to receive my boxes but I misread that guideline and got it in under a week. If your anything like me, you hate waiting and when you pay for something you want it now “ITS MY MONEY, AND I NEED IT NOW”

I’m going to continue my subscription and keep updating the success or mishaps I have with BoxyCharm but for NOW, I’m extremely impressed. We work hard for our money and I don’t feel cheated at all.

So here is my August 2k19 box: Natural Goddess Eyeshadow Palete by Butter London, Gaea 3 piece brush set, HYDRA-MIST & Refresh Powder by Becca (my fav), Wander – Glow ahead illuminating Oil (wowowow, I have wanted this), BigEgo Mascara by TARTE, Glimmer Shadow Duo by Ace Beaute (very new brand to me, I’m liking so far) and last but not least Hollywood N Vine – Velvety Touch Smooth Khol Eyeliner

So if you are interested in trying out BoxyCharm go for it and Use my referral 💋

Nicole-ZMJATEVB

Motherhood in a Digital Age, the village behind the key board.

We live in an age where we can get answers to all of our questions in the blink of an eye, or a click of a mouse. Google is an amazing tool and social media sites now offer a way to get recommendations from friends, family, people in your area as well as around the world. We share our knowledge with others, post picture, write whatever we want, seeking comments and approval on what we make public. We have a village of people at our fingertips.

Being a mother is the most rewarding, beautiful, tiring, stressful, joyous, complicated thing in my life. No easy task when you have two kids and two jobs. I remember when i first got pregnant, i’m not proud but in no way ashamed to say i am a young mother (first bundle of joy at 18), but i remember people always having something to say or have an input on how to be a parent. I’m a firm believer that it takes a village to raise an amazing village but boy boy boy, this new village is harsh!

There are so many helpful tip’s i received from other mommies that have saved my day.. and night. I remember a friend on Facebook giving great advise about teething babies and freezing pacifier’s that worked amazing! Great soaps and lotions to soothe my sons horrible eczema. I even found a friend who i could just vent to about not being able to POOP alone anymore. Strangers and family member’s who can give you a boost in your spirit when your not feeling the most adequate is important, I LOVE THIS VILLAGE WITH ALL MY HEART.

But then.. there’s the other side. WE all know that one person who believes their way is the ONLY way, and if your not doing it the same you are WRONG. Mommy jacker’s trying to steal the spot light. Its super irritating to get belittles about what you do especially by others on how you raise your family. It almost feels like a war zone, navigating on social media is like navigating through a land mine at times. You’ll never know outlandish thing someone might post, or the judgement that is about to be thrown upon you by some rando for saying ‘you can’t take another sleepless night’. There’s an undisclosed competition some bitter mommies like to play with themselves without even knowing it, dragging others into the fire without even asking. Some of the same mothers advocating “NO BULLYING” to turn around and tear another mother down was shocking and hypocritical at first. Learning the true art of the “unfriend” and “block” button will do you good, it sure did me.

There is more than one way to parent, and every child responds differently to different style’s. Only YOU know what your child needs and works for them. Babies don’t come with instruction manuals, and no matter how many books you read, you will never know what your dealing with until your dealing with it right then and there. SMILE. You’re doing a fantastic job.

Word press is amazing, i ran across another blog that i thought fit so good with what i wanted to write about. Visit this link to read on postpartum depression, don’t let the village keep you down let it guide you ❤

Postpartum depression treatment tips: how do I get help?

Finding Me (diary)

How can we all come into this world so confidently and end up so confused. As babies fresh out the womb we felt no shame, no judgement, maybe just a little bit pissy seeing as our whole way of life has just been shifted and we find our selves in a cold world full of lights, but in an instant we were back happy.

I want to get back to this point. Not the whole baby thing but the idea of just being happy and willing to learn, willing to love, and willing to be freely me.. kicking and screaming included.

Somewhere between day one and year 25 I became a cautious, fearful, introverted freak. And I can say this because in order to change the parts of me I want to change, I have to recognize them and acknowledge that they are apart of me. I’ve always wanted to be the person who had many people they could talk to, yet I never struck up any conversations first, sadly. So this year I decided to start many conversations by making my thoughts public and allowing myself to let more people (maybe a shit ton of people) into my thoughts. Not only that but pushing myself to actual react with others on social media. This may seem small or stupid but I’ve never been more honest, and as much damage as social media can cause it has been my gateway into connecting with people who think, feel, and love the same things I love 💕. The little interactions lead to meaningful conversation with strangers who have turned out to be friends, my “digital village”.

My confidence is on 8 right now, and that’s on a scale of 10. Most people don’t realize the strength it takes to be open and honest in a harsh world without caring about the consequences. It’s easy for some, especially people growing up in this technological age but it took me a while to get here. I had to break out of the routine of making sure everything was perfect before 1. Posting a picture, 2. Writing something I really wanted to write about, and 3. Speaking my truth. What I mean by speaking my truth is not being nasty or deliberately trying to hurt others feelings but saying what I am and am not going to put up with.

“ no you can not have my last piece of chicken.”

“Yes I do mind if you move my stuff with out asking me.”

“Would you like to hang out sometime of coffee!?”

All in all I’ve stopped being so passive aggressive and I love myself for it. I love the people who stuck around even after finding my voice. People who understood where I was coming from which was a surprising relief.

Coming to fruition that my passive aggressiveness came from not wanting to lose the people in my life was the first step. Second was allowing myself to see that i didn’t want those people in my life if they couldn’t understand I was no longer going hinder myself by putting other people’s thoughts and feelings so highly above mine all the time. Third came the relief and another step of freedom.

The willingness to love myself more now than ever is a process, I, like everyone else, will always be a work in progress. Complete acceptance of everything that I am is the ultimate goal. I’m not a person who likes to believe other people can tell you how to love yourself or love others but I’ve opened my self up to the possibility. It’s one of the best things I’ve done for my self. Recently read a few self-help books that reminds me everyday of the person I’m trying to become and the importance in loving and believing in myself. I strongly suggest you pick one up if you have been trying to do it in your own and are not quite succeeding.

A few of my favorites

You Are A Badass Everyday – by Jen Sincero

She has a few books in the bad ass series but this short book is compacted with wonderful everyday pick me ups and reminders on just how great you are

The Gifts of Imperfection – by Brene Brown

I love this book, definitely a keeper, a reminder that you are good enough and tips to keep your souls in a good mood

UnFu*k Yourself – by Gary John Bishop

This title really says it all lol, and it is a great read, I happen to love the audio book and is great for listening to in traffic

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