A Rough Mommy Day

Today was not the first rough mommy day, but today reminded me of a lot of commoner situations so I thought I’d share mine.

I have two kids, ages 7 and 2! Fun ages.. haha. Not. But kids grow to fast and I enjoy each day and each tantrum. They are both sick! This is something I can handle, people get sick and I consider myself a pretty good care taker. We had to go to the store (Walmart to be even more specific) to get soup and some children’s medicine, as we were waiting in the long line to check out ( and you know Walmart only has two cashiers no matter what time of day 😑) my son gets this strange, scared look on his face.. I knew that watery look. He was gone throw up and sure enough he did…. right into my hands. As I went to find paper towel and a trash can to throw away all the yuckiness piled into my palms he throws up again and this time more and its every where and now everybody and there Mother’s are staring at us.

This is where the part turns from a rough mommy day, to a day we’re my faith is restored in humanity. As I clean up the throw up from myself, my son, and the floor, a CROWD of mothers come to show support. One bought my son a ginger ale to settle his stomach, another bought my daughter some candy to distract her from the madness. And another told me how I will get through this day. I started out extremely embarrassed by a situation in which I felt I had no control over and all eyes were on me, too feeling extremely great full and un-alone!

Today was a rough mommy day, today was also a day I will get through. I love all my helpful mothers. It’s takes a village. Thank you to my village at the grocery store today

– Enjoy a pic of my beautiful family, not sick 😷

Motherhood in a Digital Age, the village behind the key board.

We live in an age where we can get answers to all of our questions in the blink of an eye, or a click of a mouse. Google is an amazing tool and social media sites now offer a way to get recommendations from friends, family, people in your area as well as around the world. We share our knowledge with others, post picture, write whatever we want, seeking comments and approval on what we make public. We have a village of people at our fingertips.

Being a mother is the most rewarding, beautiful, tiring, stressful, joyous, complicated thing in my life. No easy task when you have two kids and two jobs. I remember when i first got pregnant, i’m not proud but in no way ashamed to say i am a young mother (first bundle of joy at 18), but i remember people always having something to say or have an input on how to be a parent. I’m a firm believer that it takes a village to raise an amazing village but boy boy boy, this new village is harsh!

There are so many helpful tip’s i received from other mommies that have saved my day.. and night. I remember a friend on Facebook giving great advise about teething babies and freezing pacifier’s that worked amazing! Great soaps and lotions to soothe my sons horrible eczema. I even found a friend who i could just vent to about not being able to POOP alone anymore. Strangers and family member’s who can give you a boost in your spirit when your not feeling the most adequate is important, I LOVE THIS VILLAGE WITH ALL MY HEART.

But then.. there’s the other side. WE all know that one person who believes their way is the ONLY way, and if your not doing it the same you are WRONG. Mommy jacker’s trying to steal the spot light. Its super irritating to get belittles about what you do especially by others on how you raise your family. It almost feels like a war zone, navigating on social media is like navigating through a land mine at times. You’ll never know outlandish thing someone might post, or the judgement that is about to be thrown upon you by some rando for saying ‘you can’t take another sleepless night’. There’s an undisclosed competition some bitter mommies like to play with themselves without even knowing it, dragging others into the fire without even asking. Some of the same mothers advocating “NO BULLYING” to turn around and tear another mother down was shocking and hypocritical at first. Learning the true art of the “unfriend” and “block” button will do you good, it sure did me.

There is more than one way to parent, and every child responds differently to different style’s. Only YOU know what your child needs and works for them. Babies don’t come with instruction manuals, and no matter how many books you read, you will never know what your dealing with until your dealing with it right then and there. SMILE. You’re doing a fantastic job.

Word press is amazing, i ran across another blog that i thought fit so good with what i wanted to write about. Visit this link to read on postpartum depression, don’t let the village keep you down let it guide you ❤

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The Suicide Tree – Book review!

Good books really have a way of finding me, and this is another one added to the shelf of great reads.

I am so happy i found Shayla Raquel, author of The Suicide Tree, on instagram. She was on of the first writers i followed when starting my “bookstagram” account a month ago and fell upon her AMAZING NOVEL!. I mean really guys, this book was intriguing from beginning to end with no lag in the middle.

The name of the book “The Suicide Tree” threw me for a loop in terms of what i was expecting the book to be about (yea i could have read the back but i like a little of a surprise). The title is very fitting and unique, by the second chapter i screamed ‘BINGO’.

Knox Kevel has gone through an horrific event that no person should have to go endure… losing both his parents on the same day, watching it live on television, and watching their name get dragged through the mud. This hacker is talented no doubt , he hadn’t received the “scientist gene” from his parents, but he received the wit, talent and determination. Knox finds himself in trouble with the law. As a mysterious man waltzes into his life with half a million dollars and the power to get Knox out of his sticky situation, he dives into the opportunity, into a new life… with none of the major details disclosed about his new employer. Knox and his new gang embark on their journey for the truth, hunting down the devil herself, and uncovering answers he’s been so desperately seeking.

My parents, who were pure geniuses, created a tiny pink pill that could stop people from choking on their own blood, but chose not to let a single soul have it.
Knox Kevel

This book was amazing, the scenes were so vivid it was more like watching a film than reading a book. The Suicide Tree was full of suspense, closer to the end it got intense with thrill and horror. I knew a dark twist was coming but i didnt think it would be THAT dark.. i say that in the best way possible, it was exactly what the book needed to finish as strong as it started!

I hope you take the time to pick up this book and share the experience with me

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Bill Hodges Trilogy: by Stephen King – Book Review

I took a hiatus from social media for a while but recently got back into twitter, the writing community is one of my favorites there. Today i seen a tweet asking “What was the first book that made you fall in love with reading?” Instantly i thought of the Bill Hodges trilogy.

I’ve read a lot of books even as a tiny teen, TV wasn’t much of an option with 6 siblings fighting over TV time so Stephen King was my refugee. Being a favored author of mine i jumped at every book he put out. This Trilogy was the tipping point of the ice berg to make me talk non-stop about fictional character’s to people who didn’t even like reading. I believed, and still believe that even if you are not some one who like’s to read, you will certainly find the love of reading through these books.

Mr. Mercedes by Stephen King
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

A dark, twisted, beguiling thriller. Mr. Mercedes had me shuddering from the very beginning. The depraved scenes that caught my attention were exactly what i was hoping for in a Stephen King Novel. As Bill Hodges obsession with capturing nemesis Brady Hartsfield grows, so does your’s. With the perfectly woven moments between the two, setting up all your hopes then heart breathtakingly tearing them down. Brady seemingly getting away with his heinous acts needs more. Tantalizing Detective Hodges until he has no choice but to do the right thing, knowing hes the only who has a shot at stopping him. When he gets involved, he will stop at nothing to bring down Brady. The race against the clock has started because Hartfield’s will stop at nothing to make a name for himself.

5 stars – loved this book! i really didn’t think it could get any better.. and then i found out there was more books.

Finders Keeper (Part 2 of the Bill Hodges trilogy)

I actually read this series out of order and still loved this book. It was amazing by itself, seeing repeat characters is the cherry on top. After reading the 1st part of the series (second) it made even more sense and was even more exciting.

Brady Hartsfield’s first act of terror killed many people and crippled the a city that was already going through a financial crisis, only adding more fuel to fire for families, especially Pete Saubers.
Morris Bellamy is set to be released from prison soon, a day every prisoner is hopeful for, but unlike other prisoners, Bellamy will be going home to his hidden treasure… or so he thinks.
Pete Saubers, a bright student with a bright future knows college is a far sight with the financial troubles his family is going through, college might be but a dream, until he stumbles on a gold mine.
Now its Pete and his families live’s that are on the line that Bill Hodges and his idiosyncratic team have to save from the vengeful, menacing Morris.

Honestly if i could rate this book a 10 it would, it deserved more than 5 stars and is going down as one of my favorite books. ❤

The End of Watch (3rd book in the Bill Hodges trilogy

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You would think after being knocked into a vegetative state, where doctors say full recovery is slim to none, Brady Hartsfield’s reign of terror would be over. But it is just a new beginning. Stephen King brings the super natural, thrilling nature out of this crime novel full storm. Although on the outside, Brady seems done for, he is still in there. Mind strong and working diligently to finish what he started. If Bill Hodges and his gang don’t figure out something it will be their lives and the lives of children on the line. The mind is a powerful tool, this is heavily prevalent with the “End Of Watch”. Seeing the evil that lies behind the mind and influences that cause destruction.

By the sea
By the sea
By the beautiful sea
You and me
You and me
Oh how happy we’ll be

I did really like this book, and i gave the 1st two 5 stars… but 4.5 stars just because the ending wasn’t as great to me!! It got a little dull at times but was still amazing. ❤ Stephen king is a genius.

These books have a place high on my book shelf and i hope you take the time to read and love them too!

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Full Throttle

Today’s the day. I took a leap of faith within myself. I have always been a money cautious, penny pinching, Mr. Crab kind of gal, and today I made the decision. The decision to fully pursue what I have only dream’t of doing for so long, writing. This may seem small but that’s all it takes, one small act of courage, one small push in the right direction to get the momentum flowing and right now its full throttle. I BOUGHT MY FIRST LAPTOP! And yes I need a stiff drink.

The feeling of inadequacy came flushing in as soon as I stepped inside my car leaving Best Buy. “what the hell have I just done?!” “did I seriously just spend this kind of money today…on me?” honestly. I was cool as a cucumber on the outside paying for this laptop but my insides were boiling like hot lava, convincing me I was making a mistake, I could be investing this money in something, as if investing money in myself was less important than investing money in strangers. Yes I’m a weirdo who tends to think like that. But today I did it. I blocked out the negative vibrations of my own thoughts and let my inner heart shine bright. This laptop is an ode to myself. To take myself seriously, to at least try because honestly what have I got to lose? I have everything to gain.

I made a review today about a self-help book, “You Are A badass Everyday” by Jen Sincero and it will be my bible for the nest few days, life- time, who knows because I plan on committing myself to this lifestyle. So if any of my lovely lovely followers have any suggestions on any more motivational, pick-me-up books, or even just words of encouragement, drop them in the comments and be my writing village

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